Title: Chapter 11: Chapter 11
What type of therapist is Dr. Shannon. Her advice was VERY unprofessional. I quote : "He wasn’t doing you any favors by ending your friendship. He made a rash decision without consulting you and I believe it will backfire. "?????? How does she know this? Based on what did Dr Shannon come to this conclusion?? She never even met Clark personally. A PROFESSIONAL therapist would NEVER say something like this. She is not a relationship counselor, even them won't say something like this, nor is she a motivational coach.
A therapist should always stay neutral. Dena is her patient so she knows what is going on with her. But when it comes to Clark she doesn't know anything about him nor does she know what his reasons for ending his friendship with Dena are. Therefore Clark is a individual who has every right to end his friendship with Dena if he wants to. He has the right to withdraw himself from any situation if he feels uncomfortable or feel that it won't end well. If I was in his place I would have done the same thing. If my friends relationship was suffering because of me and to top it of, me also having strong feelings for him, I too would have walked away. And if he too is my friend, while it may hurt him, as a friend, he would also understand it for me.
Then again If Dena did not want to end her friendship with Clark she should have discuss it with him instead of breaking in to tears, insulting him and calling him a disappointment. Her abandonment issues and low self-esteem is something that only she can help herself with. She needs to stop getting attached to new people quickly and realize that she and only she is responsible for her own happiness. Hopefully this trip/therapy will help her realize that. So what if Clark was doing only himself a favor. He likes her more than just a “friend”. Why should he have to suck it up continue being her friend, while hurting because she is with someone else? His feelings and reasons don’t count? Dena clearly has some problems, but I also realize that she is a little selfish and want things to happen how and when she wants. When it doesn’t she cry’s, accuse people of abandoning, disappointing or not loving her.
The same goes for her situation with Gabriel. If a man was the one getting upset because the girl doesn’t want to or is not ready to have sex with him, then he would be called all kinds of “asswhole”. So why is it okay if its the other way around. Dena is thinking about herself again and wanting to “scratch her itch” instead of taking Gabriel’s feelings and thought also in to considerations. While he should have been more vocal and explain his reasons too Dena for not wanting to have sex yet, I for once think that when it came to this, he was right. He probably doesn’t wants to be a substitute for Clark and wants to have sex when he is sure about Dena’s feelings for her and that she wouldn’t be thinking and fantasizing about Clark when she was sleeping with him.
But even soo I still don’t trust Gabriel and I think that Dena did the right thing by breaking up with him. She wasn’t that in too him and Gabriel seems to have some issues too that were a little too creepy.
Reviewer: Msroos Signed
Date: February 21 2017